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When we have children under our care – children who are several decades younger than us in age and therefore in experience – we are in positions of power. At all times remember not to misuse your power
Children have needs. It is important for us to respect and understand their needs when we make rules.
Children are little people. They have their own desires and feelings.
They are in a position of disadvantage because they are still not able to express themselves adequately. And we must remember that and behave accordingly.
The power that we have comes to us by default – just by virtue of bringing a human being into this world – is often unthinkingly misused by us. It is very important to use the power that we have cautiously and judiciously. At all times we must remember that with the power in our hands we are shaping another human being. Underuse or over use of the power can really spoil things for our child
As parents we are powerful by default. Never misuse your power. Remember you are shaping another human being.
Making rules just to feel powerful and to satisfy our egos is wrong. Because we have all the power in our hands – this can make our children submissive or rebellious. But they will never feel like equals. And this damages their self-esteem.
Never make rules to satisfy your ego or feel powerful. You will damage your child’s self esteem
In order to build their self-esteem, even as they follow the rules made by us to fit them into our families and culture and society – we must keep the channels of communication open. We must be willing to explain our reasons for the rules we make. We must be willing to argue out our point of view when we are questioned by our children. We must steer clear of being the “Because I say so parents”
Remember to be larger and not just bigger and stronger when you discipline your child
Remember to be larger – not just bigger and stronger when you discipline your child
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